Comments on: Are You an Overprotective Dad? http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/ The journey to becoming a better husband and dad... Wed, 28 Jul 2010 06:09:53 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: marco http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-1116 marco Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:04:00 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-1116 My son's a little guy (as am I) so my antennae start to buzz the moment I think he might be bullied. my dad was a bit of goon in terms of teaching me how to cope - being Asian, the default method in the 70's was martial arts. i was taught to attack the side of the neck. can you imagine? - a 5 or 6 year knee-jerk reacting by attacking another 5 or 6 year with strikes to the side of the neck, shins and kidneys.sadly, i was considered a problem child all the way up to high school. <br><br>when i had my own son, i was determined never to teach him 'san sau', a form of short attack fighting that's effective against bigger opponents. but the first time i saw my son get verbally abused by another 3.5 year old, my first inclination was to tell to tell my little boy to strike the other kid's shin to bend him over for moment followed by a quick hook to the neck.<br><br>fortunately i played the entire scenario in my head and bit my tongue - hard.<br><br>i've never worried more than after i had my son and at that moment, i realized that there is no length i wouldn't go to to ensure my son safe - both in mind and body<br><br>i simply cannot stop worrying about him because i see myself in him. My son's a little guy (as am I) so my antennae start to buzz the moment I think he might be bullied. my dad was a bit of goon in terms of teaching me how to cope – being Asian, the default method in the 70's was martial arts. i was taught to attack the side of the neck. can you imagine? – a 5 or 6 year knee-jerk reacting by attacking another 5 or 6 year with strikes to the side of the neck, shins and kidneys.sadly, i was considered a problem child all the way up to high school.

when i had my own son, i was determined never to teach him 'san sau', a form of short attack fighting that's effective against bigger opponents. but the first time i saw my son get verbally abused by another 3.5 year old, my first inclination was to tell to tell my little boy to strike the other kid's shin to bend him over for moment followed by a quick hook to the neck.

fortunately i played the entire scenario in my head and bit my tongue – hard.

i've never worried more than after i had my son and at that moment, i realized that there is no length i wouldn't go to to ensure my son safe – both in mind and body

i simply cannot stop worrying about him because i see myself in him.

]]> By: marco http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-1115 marco Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:00:25 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-1115 My son's a little guy (as am I) so my antennae start to buzz the moment I think he might be bullied. my dad was a bit of goon in terms of teaching me how to cope - being Asian, the default method in the 70's was martial arts. i was taught to attack the side of the neck. can you imagine? - a 5 or 6 year knee-jerk reacting by attacking another 5 or 6 year with strikes to the side of the neck, shins and kidneys.sadly, i was considered a problem child all the way up to high school. <br><br>when i had my own son, i was determined never to teach him 'san sau', a form of short attack fighting that's effective against bigger opponents. but the first time i saw my son get verbally abused by another 3.5 year old, my first inclination was to tell to tell my little boy to strike the other kid's shin to bend him over for moment followed by a quick hook to the neck.<br><br>fortunately i played the entire scenario in my head and bit my tongue - hard.<br><br>i've never worried more than after i had my son and at that moment, i realized that there is no length i wouldn't go to to ensure my son safe - both in mind and body<br><br>i simply cannot stop worrying about him because i see myself in him. My son's a little guy (as am I) so my antennae start to buzz the moment I think he might be bullied. my dad was a bit of goon in terms of teaching me how to cope – being Asian, the default method in the 70's was martial arts. i was taught to attack the side of the neck. can you imagine? – a 5 or 6 year knee-jerk reacting by attacking another 5 or 6 year with strikes to the side of the neck, shins and kidneys.sadly, i was considered a problem child all the way up to high school.

when i had my own son, i was determined never to teach him 'san sau', a form of short attack fighting that's effective against bigger opponents. but the first time i saw my son get verbally abused by another 3.5 year old, my first inclination was to tell to tell my little boy to strike the other kid's shin to bend him over for moment followed by a quick hook to the neck.

fortunately i played the entire scenario in my head and bit my tongue – hard.

i've never worried more than after i had my son and at that moment, i realized that there is no length i wouldn't go to to ensure my son safe – both in mind and body

i simply cannot stop worrying about him because i see myself in him.

]]> By: Stephen Connolly http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-46 Stephen Connolly Wed, 26 Nov 2008 22:11:25 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-46 He said that he was "studying" - sleeping more like. <abbr><em>Stephen Connolly’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.adadsnotes.com/?p=1427" rel="nofollow">You Know You’re Old When …</a></em></abbr> He said that he was “studying” – sleeping more like.

Stephen Connolly’s last blog post..You Know You’re Old When …

]]> By: Jon http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-43 Jon Wed, 26 Nov 2008 21:28:22 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-43 <a href="#comment-42" rel="nofollow">@Stephen Connolly</a> - Sigh, I just don't get some dads. That guy was more concerned about his dog? Seriously? @Stephen Connolly -
Sigh, I just don’t get some dads. That guy was more concerned about his dog? Seriously?

]]> By: Stephen Connolly http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-42 Stephen Connolly Wed, 26 Nov 2008 20:30:25 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-42 I had an incident in the local library when the twins were about two. My son Henry had a fascination with the elevator (the children's section was in the basement). He'd gotten off the elevator on the main floor and wandered into the office behind the circulation desk, which was next to the exit. He got lost in the stacks and began calling out to me. I prefer taking my kids to parks where I have a clear view of them and they can't duck around a corner. We all dread that heart in the mouth feeling when you can't spot them. Check out this story about a dad in a community which neighbors our who was prosecuted for child endangerment when his two year-old was found wandering near a main street: http://www.southtownstar.com/news/1297155,112508lostgirl.article <abbr><em>Stephen Connolly’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.adadsnotes.com/?p=1427" rel="nofollow">You Know You’re Old When …</a></em></abbr> I had an incident in the local library when the twins were about two. My son Henry had a fascination with the elevator (the children’s section was in the basement). He’d gotten off the elevator on the main floor and wandered into the office behind the circulation desk, which was next to the exit. He got lost in the stacks and began calling out to me. I prefer taking my kids to parks where I have a clear view of them and they can’t duck around a corner. We all dread that heart in the mouth feeling when you can’t spot them.

Check out this story about a dad in a community which neighbors our who was prosecuted for child endangerment when his two year-old was found wandering near a main street:
http://www.southtownstar.com/news/1297155,112508lostgirl.article

Stephen Connolly’s last blog post..You Know You’re Old When …

]]> By: Jon http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-23 Jon Wed, 05 Nov 2008 17:30:50 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-23 <a href='#comment-22' rel="nofollow">@Jeff Rose</a> - I agree there's a certain level of being "protective" that's appropriate. But I don't want to be that dad who tries to shield my children from everything... to the point of suffocating them, which some parents do. There's a balance, and it's interesting trying to figure that out. Being a dad sure does involve a lot of on the job training, doesn't it? :) @Jeff Rose –
I agree there’s a certain level of being “protective” that’s appropriate. But I don’t want to be that dad who tries to shield my children from everything… to the point of suffocating them, which some parents do.

There’s a balance, and it’s interesting trying to figure that out. Being a dad sure does involve a lot of on the job training, doesn’t it? :)

]]> By: Jeff Rose http://www.dadtrek.com/379/overprotective-dad/#comment-22 Jeff Rose Wed, 05 Nov 2008 17:27:01 +0000 http://www.dadtrek.com/?p=379#comment-22 Nothing wrong in being overprotective. For some reason, I could see myself reacting the same way. A similar incident happened in the men's section of Macy's. My 15 month old was out of my site for about a minute and I nearly had a panic attack. Turns out he was hiding underneath one of the clothing racks. When I was younger, after my parents split, my mom sent me to my dad on a plane from CA to IL. I was only 5 years old. I don't remember it. But what my dad told me was that I ran off the plane for the flight attendant could find me. They almost had a heart attack. Are kids sweet? <abbr><em>Jeff Rose’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.goodfinancialcents.com/blog/component/content/article/37-joe-plemon/84-interview-with-joe-plemon" rel="nofollow">Interview With Joe Plemon</a></em></abbr> Nothing wrong in being overprotective. For some reason, I could see myself reacting the same way. A similar incident happened in the men’s section of Macy’s. My 15 month old was out of my site for about a minute and I nearly had a panic attack. Turns out he was hiding underneath one of the clothing racks.

When I was younger, after my parents split, my mom sent me to my dad on a plane from CA to IL. I was only 5 years old. I don’t remember it. But what my dad told me was that I ran off the plane for the flight attendant could find me. They almost had a heart attack. Are kids sweet?

Jeff Rose’s last blog post..Interview With Joe Plemon

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